Thursday, January 17, 2013

Finding Words

"Mom!  There's something growling under the shed!"  Child barely opens slider door, gasps announcement, before running back to raucous scene where five children and a dog are investigating.  There is much animated commotion amidst guesses at what lies huddled in the dark underbelly of the garden shed.  "It's a bear!"  "No, it's a badger!"  Children run through the house as I chop onions, leisurely fill stock pot with German Potato Soup, and chat with guests who have come for dinner.  A flashlight is procured and the culprit is revealed as a raccoon.  There's a frenzy of shouting and unbridled excitement as air soft guns are brought out "for protection" (right.).

Later I would watch the short recording of when they managed to get the huge vermin to emerge, pause briefly as if scrutinizing the motley crew who drew him out, before escaping behind the shed and into the night never to be seen again.  But there's this moment on the recording where the racoon's face is fully visible.  The eyes look right into the camera.  And... I identify with the utter and complete confusion in his expression.  One moment he's living peacefully in this den.  Comfortable.  And then his whole world is disrupted.

Eight months ago, our world changed scenery.  One moment we're meandering down ancient cobble-stoned streets, resting in cathedrals hundreds, (occasionally, thousands), of years old, smiling with the headiness of rich, romantic languages of which we only know a scant vocabulary.  We're driving through countryside that feels more like a postcard than reality, the rolling green hills dipping sharply into ravines only to ascend up narrow winding roads to castles majestically standing atop cliffs and mountainsides.  Dreamy hardly begins to describe this lifestyle of homeschool in the mornings then Huck-Finn-Tom-Sawyer adventures in the forest to wile away the afternoon hours until dinner.  There's Gertrude at the Bäkerei in Badem where we buy warm Apfelstrudel on the occasional Saturday morning.  And Oma Yvonne -- who lives across the street -- fetching the boys to help her lift something heavy or to do yard work, their fists clutching a euro, a piece of candy or an apple upon their return.

And then, suddenly (even though we knew all along the moment would arrive), there is this commotion as boxes are filled with earthly treasures and stacked into crates on the truck.  Suitcases are hauled to our temporary living facility on Base and my heart feels squeezed between two worlds.  The goodbyes are far more painful this side of the pond than they were five years earlier when we left Spokane.  Leaving Spokane felt... temporary.  What's three years or five years? I told myself.  It felt more like a long pause.  But this.  This feels different.  Bonds run deep with these people we've done life with for the last several years.  Goodbye is left open ended... with no guarantee that we'll ever live so close to one another again.  There's this sadness, the only symptoms a physical ache in my heart and a quiet demeanor -- my measly attempt to process grief.  I am at a loss for words.  (I didn't know that I'd still struggle to find words eight months later.  But here I am.)

Upon our arrival Stateside, we immediately begin our search for a home to purchase.  To my dismay, I find it nearly impossible to put my heart into it, the only reprieves coming from both husband and realtor who throw themselves tenaciously into the task with focus and passion.  Each time we get close to a purchase, I "discover" all the reasons why the house is a bad idea.  It is not a coincidence that we are matched with our realtor, Katie, as she boldly suggests that perhaps I'm not ready to put down roots and like having cold water splashed in my face, I realize I'm stubbornly holding onto a culture half a world away, friendships spread out between Malawi, Africa and Louisiana; Missouri to Spokane.  Roots?  Tell me what is meant by "putting down roots."  And now I sort of (oh, just a smidgen of a glimpse) understand why military families say, Home is where the military sends us.

It is this part of the journey that I am gazing at the map, like the one on the beach in Croatia, that had a large red circle with the proclamation, "I AM HERE."  Once again, I am profoundly grateful as I sit here at my farm table in Suburbia America, (in the cozy little house we bought), and while words are still elusive, I am determined to live in the grace of this moment, to eek out this document of sorts, to chronicle the best I am able this new adventure we're on.

I wonder what the next few years hold in store for us.  I'm eternally grateful that God loves me too much to let me settle into complacency, get too comfortable, too settled in whatever status quo I naturally gravitate toward.  I'm thankful that He has brought us back to Spokane where we are s l o w l y acclimating and reorienting ourselves to life in the States.  It's not easy.  We've undergone a few  paradigm shifts in the last five years and figuring out how to align new mindsets with this new adventure we're on is proving to be a bit of a challenge.  The six of us, we're haphazardly slipping-sliding as we try to find our footing.  And I'm trying desperately to find my words.

If we get together to catch up over a cuppa, will you graciously let me off the hook if I don't know how to tell you my heart?

I wonder what ever happened to that raccoon.  I wonder where he went or if he'll ever return.


Linking today with Emily at ~

18 comments:

  1. Hi Sharon,
    Nice to meet you as I linked up behind you at Em's...Thanks for sharing your story of transition and processing grief and loss...praying today that God gives you and your family grace as you adjust to a new life and a new place for now.

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  2. Linking with Emily as well, but I am not sure I've figured out this blog thing. Moving place to place sounds so romantic from a distance, and I am praying for roots for you: roots in your Heavenly Father. :)

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    1. "...roots in your Heavenly Father" Oh! Thank you! Amen and amen! Blessings, Cailey!

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    1. You know, Jennifer... your hug (through your words) reaches across allll the miles. Love you, Friend.

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  4. Good morning. I found you through Em's place. I don't know your backstory, but we have a military background, and most of our friends are military, so I have had many a quiet conversation with a cup of coffee, few words, and packing boxes.

    I am praying that you will experience peace and that you'll have the space you need to process and decide with your family what the next steps are.

    Blessings to you all, and may you be bathed in encouragement today from all those around you.

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    1. Thank you, Brenna, for pouring courage into my soul today. "...many a quiet conversation with a cup of coffee, few words, and packing boxes." Ah, your empathy is salve to my soul.

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  5. Eyes are brimming here in Louisiana!!! We miss you so much! ALLL of you!! Transitioning to this side of 'familiar', though in lots of ways it's not, has been rough for us too! Finding a listening ear among those that never travel (or have any reason or desire to) has been a lesson in futility. Another 'wandering' friend wisely advised that it takes at LEAST a year of recovery.......WE MUST SCYPE!! Hugs to ALL!!

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    1. Sweet sister! Did you see mention of you and your blessed family in my post?! How many days I've thought of you and wished we could catch up over a cup of coffee over at Kuhl Beanz or while sitting in your cozy kitchen. Thank you for the insight, "...it takes at LEAST a year of recovery." I needed to hear that.

      Love you! And your whole beautiful family!

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  6. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I've been hoping to read your words again for so long. You do not disappoint.
    God has given you a spirit of adventure. Relish it. He knew it wouldn't be without pain but he knew you also.
    You have opened my eyes to so much. Lately I've been able to see the church in a much broader sense than I ever had. You give me much more of a picture of the "church universal". I need that. I have those feelings of dangling in the cosmos when we stay with Anne in Oklahoma for months at a time. I make delightful friends and then have to say goodbye. Then I go back to Spokane and don't quite feel like I fit in.
    I'm agreeing with Jenn, I just want to give you a hug!

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    1. Thank you for your CONSTANT, CONSTANT encouragement, Carol! What a dear friend you've been to me! Thank you for reaching out to me upon our return. And thank you for not giving up on me. Your grace ministers to me more than you know.

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  7. Sharon, just a thought, but who says the cozy little house in Spokane has to be permanent? I see many, many, many more moves and adventures in your future. I think you are stymied as you just don't know when or what the next one will be. It will find you and you will embrace it with open arms when it does, of that I have no doubt. Love you ~ Amy S.

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    1. Sister, you know me so well... forever reaching deep into my soul and drawing out courage where fear makes the well murky. I love you!

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  8. Displaced. I know what you mean. And so the long paused opens wide to catch us while we wait for the path to appear. And it will. I love your post. Beautiful writing.

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    1. Thank you, Bethany. Your friendship and encouragement... the way you generously lavish hope on me (and everyone)... thank you.

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    2. Oh, and the same to you, sweet friend. {hug}

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